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[Video] Flip It! Why Haven’t I Gotten Better Results Yet?

[Video] Flip It! Why Haven’t I Gotten Better Results Yet?

If you’re trying to grow your business and you’re not feeling like you’re getting the results you want, I would say one of 3 things is going on:

  1. You’re taking a lot of action, but it’s not the RIGHT action, and that’s why you aren’t seeing results. Maybe the marketing strategy you’re following isn’t the right strategy for your specific situation, or maybe you need better copy for your emails.

This is probably the easiest one to fix — and it’s also the one everyone assumes is the problem. Hence all the marketing out there that is promising you that you really could be getting results, if you only knew this one tiny little-known secret.

And sometimes, this is precisely what’s going on. But, if you’ve tried tweaking your marketing strategy or putting up a new Facebook ad and it’s still not working, then let’s move to number 2.

  1. You’re taking a lot of action and it’s the right action, but it’s just going to take some time. The harsh truth is — success takes time. Dan Kennedy, who is a famous copywriter and business strategist, once said he’s met a lot of millionaires that their bank account just hasn’t caught up to them yet.

So, how do you know if it’s this one? If you’re seeing small, incremental signs of success. Typically if you’re on the right path.

Look, despite a lot of the sexy Facebook ads you’re seeing in your news feed, success doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time. And work. Consistent work. So, if you’re consistently showing up and seeing those tiny results, keep going.

But, there’s a third thing that might be going on.

  1. You’re actually not really taking all the consistent action you think you’re taking.

There’s a story about Tony Robbins where at one of his events, a man stood up and said “I’ve done everything possible to grow my business and nothing is working.” And Tony said “okay, tell me 10 things you did.” And the man pauses and says “I guess I only did 1 or 2 things” and sits back down.

The point is — what we think we’re doing and what we’re actually doing may not be the same thing.

One of the most difficult things is to get out of our own head and our story so we can clearly see our actions. It is really easy to get sucked into all the crap in our head and be able to judge what we are or aren’t doing.

How do you know if you’re here? Watch below and find out:

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.

[Video] Flip It! How Do I Stop Procrastinating?

[Video] Flip It! How Do I Stop Procrastinating?

For years, I had a secret. And that secret was — I was obsessed around getting myself to stop procrastinating.

Now, from the outside, it certainly LOOKED like I was getting a lot done. Multiple 6-figure business, nonfiction books published, fiction books published.

But, inside it was a constant struggle. I would set aside time to work on my book projects or my blog posts, but whether or not I actually got anything done during that time was another story.

I struggled with this for years.

In the beginning, I was convinced this was an organizational problem. If I could simply become more organized with my time, I would have more time to work on my books.

Makes sense, right?

So, I tried everything. New systems. Productivity tips. In fact, I became a little obsessed with goals and planners and to-do lists — so much so I’m working on a “Love-Based Goals” book (due out December 2017).

Now, while I did get more organized and I was able to actually get more things done, I still wasn’t working on my books as much as I wanted.

And, much to my dismay, I still found myself procrastinating too much.

So then I tried the personal development route. After all, I was able to break some of other toxic habit, like my worrying habit. Maybe this would be the way to get myself to stop procrastinating.

The more committed I became to my personal development habit, the more I was able to turn my inner world around. I was so much more peaceful and happy. I broke a ton of habits that weren’t serving me and in their place, I had new, supportive habits.

But … I still couldn’t get myself to stop procrastinating.

How could this be? I’ve tried everything. What was going on?

I was close to my wit’s end. And then I remembered a book I had read years ago called “The Artist Way” by Julia Cameron.

It’s about helping artists and writers who are blocked and not creating start creating again. In that book, she shares her own story.

Julia had a successful writing career — writing screenplays in Hollywood. How she wrote was every day at 4 pm, she would fix herself 3 scotches, line them up by her typewriter (yes, this was a long time ago) and start a race.

The race was, how much writing could she get done in that small window of opportunity when the alcohol loosened the creative juices and before she was too drunk to write.

She described the experience as crashing head first into a wall over and over again. Every night she broke herself to write.

So, what I started to realize is I was doing the same thing. No, I wasn’t using alcohol, maybe I should have because it would have been more efficient — I was using procrastination.

It didn’t matter how much time I set aside to write, I wouldn’t actually start until I was nearly out of time. I would have wasted hours and there I would sit at the end of the day, facing the choice of do I just throw in the towel and try again tomorrow or do I get something done?

If I had a hard deadline, clearly I was getting it done.

If I didn’t, it was split between me pushing myself or trying again tomorrow.

Needless to say, it was a painful way to write.

So, how did I finally break this once and for all? Watch below:

So, how do you stop procrastinating? It might be as easy as getting to the bottom of what the payoff is.

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.

[Video] Flip It! How Can I Overcome Writer’s Block?

[Video] Flip It! How Can I Overcome Writer’s Block?

Ahhh — writer’s block. The scourge of writers and entrepreneurs everywhere.

There’s so much you need to get done — and yet, nothing is being accomplished.

It’s a horrible feeling.

So, before I get into some ways of overcoming writer’s block, I want to start with how I personally view writer’s block. You see, I don’t actually think it’s something that is necessarily bad. I think it’s actually trying to help me.

How so? Well, if I’m really blocked on something, it’s likely because there’s something wrong with what I’m trying to write. For instance:

• I may not have not information and I need to do some more research.

• This may not be the project I’m supposed to be working on. This project may be better suited either being delegated or simply, not done at all.

Writer’s block is a message — a way of communicating with me there’s a problem with what I’m trying to do.

Now, writer’s procrastination is a whole other kettle of fish. Writer’s procrastination is me simply not feeling like writing and doing everything I can to waste a bunch of time.

Writer’s procrastination definitely needs its butt kicked to the curb.

So, how do you get through Writer’s Procrastination? Here are a couple of things to try:

  1. Set your timer for 10 minutes and tell yourself you’re going to write for 10 minutes and stop. And then start writing. It doesn’t matter what. You can write I don’t know what to write for 10 minutes over and over. What will likely happen is after 10 minutes, something kicks in in your brain and you’ll keep going. For whatever reason, it’s the getting started is the biggest problem — sort of like an object that is in motion, stays in motion? So, in most cases, you’ll get to 10 minutes and you’ll want to keep working. But, if you don’t want to keep working, then stop. It’s as simple as that.
  2. Create a writing ritual for yourself. I detail this in my “Love-Based Copywriting System” book, but a writing ritual can really help shift your brain that now is time to write. I do things like light candles, choose music, maybe do a little meditation or review my notes. Everyone is different but having a writing ritual can really help you overcome writing procrastination.

I share a few more tips in my video below — take a moment to watch now:

(Wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my Love-Based Copy books: Love-Based Copywriting Method and Love-Based Copywriting System, both available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, iTunes and other online retailers.

[Video] Flip It! What Mistakes do Entrepreneurs Make When Starting a Business?

[Video] Flip It! What Mistakes do Entrepreneurs Make When Starting a Business?

Full disclosure — mistakes are VERY common, especially when you’re first starting a business. I personally have made more mistakes than I can even remember.

And, I’ve noticed a theme around the vast majority of mistakes. Most of them are made because the entrepreneur is focusing on the wrong things.

Let me give you an example.

When you’re first starting a business, chances are the first thing you focus on is creating a logo, a tagline, a website — things like that.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with any of those things. All of them most definitely can help you grow your business.

But, none of those — yes even the website — will actually put money into your pocket in the short term.

Now, this isn’t the say you don’t need a website — you absolutely do. BUT it’s completely possible to get some clients and money in the door without it.

And that, my friends, is what you should focusing on when you’re starting a business. Generating some income. Learning how to craft your offer so your ideal clients say yes to you.

Because if you don’t know how to craft an offer so your ideal prospects say yes to you, it’s going to be an uphill battle trying to generate an income.

Worse, what if you decide to spend all this time and money to  create a website, logo and tagline only to discover your message is all wrong? It actually DOESN’T actually attract, inspire and invite your ideal prospects to become your ideal clients.

So, what do you do?

Luckily there IS a better way, which I share in the video below. Check it out:

(Wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my Love-Based Copy books: Love-Based Copywriting Method and Love-Based Copywriting System, both available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, iTunes and other online retailers.

 

[Video] Flip It! Why Can’t I Focus?

[Video] Flip It! Why Can’t I Focus?

One of the biggest issues entrepreneurs have is around focus.

How can I focus more? How can I procrastinate less?

And it makes sense. When you’re an entrepreneur, there’s always a million things on your to-do list, and in many cases, the more you get done, the more money you make.

So, you want to spend your day being productive and focused.

Right?

Well, a couple of things.

First off, for a lot of us, I think we look for (or we allow our inner critic to look for) negative traits to beat ourselves up. And a perceived lack of focus is a great one to use.

But, what if something else was true?

What if your focus, or lack thereof, was a sign of something deeper going on.

Let me give you an example. Maybe every time you sit down to work on a certain project, you find your attention wanes and you’re suddenly messing around on Facebook — even though you’ve closed it about a dozen times.

You think the problem is you just aren’t focused. But maybe what the problem is is you don’t have enough information and need to do some research.

Or maybe, this is not a project you need to be working on and you ought to be delegating it. Or not doing it at all.

Or maybe, this is precisely the project you need to be working on, and you have some subconscious or mindset blocks that are keeping you from working on it and if you want to move forward, you need to move past those blocks.

Or maybe you’ve lost your passion. Not just for this project but for your business.

Not being focused doesn’t necessarily mean there’s something wrong with you. It doesn’t necessarily mean it’s something that needs to be fixed or you need to go out and learn a bunch of productivity tips or hacks.

It may just be a sign there’s another issue, a deeper issue, with whatever it is you’re supposed to be working on. And once you address that, your focus will also return.

So, what do you know if there is a deeper issue going on or how to figure out what that deeper issue is? Watch now:

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.

 

[Video] Flip It! How Do You Know If You Should Quit?

[Video] Flip It! How Do You Know If You Should Quit?

“I quit.” Every entrepreneur I’ve ever known has fantasied at one time or another about quitting. (Yes, even the super successful ones.)

But, fantasy is one thing. What happens when you’re in the middle of the mess — working your fingers to the bone every day with no guarantee the work you’re slaving over will actually turn into the success you’re hoping and dreaming and sweating and bleeding for.

How do you know when you’re just wasting your time and you should quit — or you should keep going? (After all, how many of us have heard about those “overnight” success stories that took ten years?)

How do you do it? How do you keep working on your business, not knowing if the actions you’re taking today are going to be the ones to finally break through for you. Or if it’s going to take another six months or even a year before you start seeing momentum in your business.

Or do you?

I think part of the problem is how do you know if what you’re going through is simply part of the process or if you’re completely on the wrong path and really should quit?

And, the answer is — you don’t.

Not completely.

Most of the time you’re battling your self doubt and your demons alone, in the slog, day after day.

BUT, I do think there are a few signs you can look for:

• Do you see any glimpses of success? Scott Adams in his book “How to Fail At Almost Everything and Still Win Big” wrote you will see a few signs if you’re on the right path. They may be small, they may be spread apart, but they’ll be there.

• Is the Universe helping you course correct? Course corrections can appear in all sorts of ways. Maybe it’s a person who shows up with the perfect, offhand remark, or a blog post pops up with precisely the information you’ve been looking for. The point is to stay open to what’s being put in front of you.

• Or is the Universe trying to send you in a different direction? One of my entrepreneurial friends was laid off three times over a period of two years. As she drove home after the third time, her stuff in a box next to her, she finally realized the Universe had been trying to steer her away from a job and toward having her own business.

Basically, being open to the gentle suggestions, nudges or cheering-you-on signs is the best thing you can do for yourself during this time.

I’ve got more (a lot more) to say on this topic — watch below:

 

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.