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3 Tips to Getting Rid of Mind Chatter and Mental Noise, So You Can Finally Have Peace of Mind

3 Tips to Getting Rid of Mind Chatter and Mental Noise, So You Can Finally Have Peace of Mind

It happens to the best of us: mind chatter, mental noise, mental chatter … whatever name you give it, you’ve undoubtedly experienced it.

Maybe it happens just before you fall asleep at night, and you just can’t turn off your mind. You’re running through your to-do list for tomorrow, or going over and over a conversation you had with a client.

Maybe you’re so busy worrying over a looming deadline or a big project that you can’t actually get anything done! Anxiety sets in, and you’re stuck.

Whatever it is, you know this: you want it – that incessant mind chatter – to stop!

All you want is peace of mind, right?

The bad news here is that mind chatter happens. As entrepreneurs, we’re busy. We’re busy with work, family obligations, and the normal day-to-day life “stuff” that has to get done. There’s a lot to think about, a lot to worry about … and huge potential for mental noise.

You see, your mind chatter, or mental noise, is actually a sneaky version of your inner critic (or, as my friends Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo call it, your Inner Mean Girl). It is there, looming in the dark, waiting for the right moment to step out of the shadows and show its scary face.

It doesn’t come right out and talk about your shortcomings; rather, it hints at them, making snide comments like:

  • “There’s no way you can get that all done tomorrow.”
  • “You’re probably going to forget something really important.”
  • “You really messed up that conversation with that client.”
  • “You know that project you’re working on? The client’s going to hate it, if you get it done at all.”

The good news is that you CAN put the kibosh on your inner critic. You can stop mind chatter in its tracks, and give yourself the peace of mind you so desperately want.

In other words, your peace of mind doesn’t have to be determined by your inner critic.

Today, I’m sharing three tips to stop mind chatter whenever it rears its ugly head. I’ll start with a quick, short-term fix, and move on to longer-term – and possibly even permanent – solutions.

Tip One: Flip Those Negative Thoughts into Positive Self-Talk.

When mind chatter shows up, quickly flip it around and replace the thought with self-soothing, positive self-talk that contradicts the negative chatter.

You wake up in the middle of the night, and immediately, your to-do list for tomorrow pops into your mind. It’s a doozy, and with the meetings and tasks you’ve scheduled, you’re not sure you can get everything done. But you also have this sense that you have to.

Before this mental chatter runs off with your peace of mind, stop it in its tracks. Some people say, aloud, “Stop!” or “Cancel,” and some people use these words silently. The key is to create a mental break in the pattern of mind chatter.

Then, turn those statements around into positive self-talk or affirmations (try saying them out loud, too!):

  • “I can do this. I WILL do this. I’ve got this.”
  • “I am calm.”
  • “I am capable.”
  • “I am checking these items off my to-do list so quickly!”
  • “I can solve any problem.”

As I mentioned above, this is a short-term solution. It will stop mind chatter in the moment, but it doesn’t necessarily address the underlying cause of the mental noise.

So let’s talk about another tip that’s designed to help you remove the fear from the situation.

Tip Two: Play out the Scenario until It Reaches a Silly Conclusion.

This exercise is one I shared in my book, Love-Based Online Marketing. It comes from my friend Therese Skelly, who’s an expert at identifying your core message and releasing the blocks that keep you from success, so you can make the difference you’re here to make.

When your inner critic steps in, it’s often in the form of fear. Back to that middle-of-the-night to-do list: it’s keeping you awake because you’re afraid of not getting it done. What does that really boil down to? Maybe it’s a fear of failure or a fear of letting someone down.

So once you’ve identified the specific fear related to your mental noise or mind chatter, ask yourself a series of questions about what that will look like.

Let’s walk through an example with the assumption that you’re afraid that you’ll let your significant other down if you don’t get to the store so you can buy food to cook dinner tomorrow.

Q: What are you afraid is going to happen if you don’t make it to the grocery store?

A: My wife will be disappointed in me.

Q: So, what’s the worst that will happen if she’s disappointed in you?

A: It means that I’ve let her down.

Q: So what is the worst that can happen if she feels like you let her down?

A: Then she won’t love me anymore.

Q: And what’s the worst that will happen if she doesn’t love you anymore?

A: Then we’ll have to get a divorce.

Q: And what is the worst that will happen if you get a divorce?

A: I’ll be alone and miserable for the rest of my life.

You see how this goes. You can keep going and going until you reach a conclusion … all because you ran out of time to get to the grocery store.

Here’s the thing: we know this isn’t going to happen. Your spouse won’t divorce you because you ran out of time to get to the grocery store.

For some people, the sheer act of going through this exercise allows them to see how baseless their fear is, which allows them to start moving past it.

This is an immediate and long-term solution. Not only does it stop the mind chatter while it’s happening, but it also helps you identify the root cause of your mind chatter and move past the fear. It can apply to any situation where fear shows up!

Tip Three: Stop the Story in Your Head and Breathe into the Emotions.

When you fall victim to mind chatter, you can quickly nip it in the bud if you stop the story in your head (you may want to use actual words here, like, “Stop,” or, “Cancel,” like I recommended in the first tip) and just feel the emotions you’re feeling.

This exercise helps break the emotional connection of the mind chatter.

For example, if you’re experiencing fear of letting your spouse down, or fear of failure, taking a moment to breathe into that fear can actually help you move past it.

Your fear may stem from some past trauma or other pent-up negative emotions you haven’t yet dealt with. But once you feel into, and breathe into, those emotions, you can begin to resolve them.

At first, mind chatter may continue to pop up when you face an event that triggers that old trauma or emotion, but over time, as you continue to feel and breathe into that emotion, it’s possible that the mind chatter will fade away.

The bottom line is that you don’t have to be a victim to mind chatter.

If you’re tired of falling victim to your mind chatter, I’d love for you to try some of these tips. And let me know how they work for you in the comments below!

And if you’d like more help breaking the mind chatter, my Love-Based Money and Mindset book may be perfect for you. You can check it out and grab your copy here.

[Video] The Story Behind the Story: “Love-Based Online Marketing” book

[Video] The Story Behind the Story: “Love-Based Online Marketing” book

I realized I needed to write “Love-Based Online Marketing” when I was promoting the first book in my “Love-Based Business” series.

You see, if you truly want to have a love-based business (which is a business built on a foundation of love-based emotions rather than fear-based emotions — you can learn more about the philosophy here) every part of your business needs to love-based. That includes your copy, your selling process AND your marketing strategies.

But, how do you craft a marketing campaign using love versus fear? Especially when so many marketing “gurus” seem so slimy and inauthentic?

That’s why I decided the third book int the series needed to teach “Love-Based Online Marketing.”

But I’m getting ahead of myself, watch for yourself:

Along with helping you create a love-based online marketing plan, I also include a “Love Your Marketing” assessment, to help you figure out the best marketing tactics for you.

And, because I know so many people struggle with unconscious blocks around marketing, you’ll also discover exercises and strategies for getting rid of any mindset issues you have around marketing.

“Love-Based Online Marketing” is available on all the major online retailers — you can grab your copy here.

[Video] The Story Behind the Story — “Love-Based Copywriting System” book

[Video] The Story Behind the Story — “Love-Based Copywriting System” book

It was while I was promoting my first Love-Based Copywriting book, “Love-Based Copywriting Method,” that I realized I needed to write what would become “Love-Based Copywriting System.”

You see, while the first book explained the love-based copy philosophy, I didn’t make it a “nuts and bolts” copywriting book. My reasoning was because I wanted a book for folks who already knew how to write copy and didn’t necessarily want to learn how to write headlines or features and benefits.

But, I quickly realized that was what people were expecting. They wanted the “how to” along with the philosophy.

Even more than that, entrepreneurs (especially conscious or spiritual entrepreneurs) who were new to business and writing copy really wanted a book that walked them through the basics on how to write love-based copy.

So, I sat back down in front of my computer and got to work.

But, I’m getting a bit ahead of myself — check out the story behind the story to learn more:

If you’re looking for a nuts and bolts copywriting book that walks you through exactly how to write copy that attracts, inspires and invites so you can promote yourself on a foundation of love, this book may be exactly what you were looking for.

“Love-Based Copywriting System” is available at all the major online retailers — check it out here.

Making Your Impact with LOVE: 3 Keys to Success Through Love-Based Marketing

Making Your Impact with LOVE: 3 Keys to Success Through Love-Based Marketing

If you’re a conscious, mission-driven, spiritual entrepreneur, it’s likely important to you to want to make an impact. (Right?)

Well, one of the best ways to do that is to create a system for building your business, so you can reach more people.

“Wait,” you might be saying. “A system sounds so … systematic! I’m a conscious entrepreneur. I want to grow my business in a way that feels good.”

I hear you. And I’d like to make an introduction:

Meet Love-Based Online Marketing.

And it allows you to do so in a way that feels good to both you AND your ideal prospects.

What does this mean, exactly?

It means that as a mission-driven, spiritual entrepreneur, you can reach the people you’re meant to serve, effectively. You can also do it in a way that both aligns with your values and makes an impact in the world.

Oh, and I almost forgot — you can watch your business grow, too!

To help you get started as quickly as possible with Love-Based Online Marketing, I’m sharing three keys to begin building online systems you actually enjoy, and that attract, invite, and inspire your ideal clients to work with you so you can make the impact in the world you long to make.

Key 1. Fall in Love with Your Marketing.

You think you dislike marketing, right? Hear me out – I promise you, loving your marketing is possible.

And it’s beneficial, too. When you love your marketing, it shows. Your prospects can sense that you’re passionate about your business and the transformation you provide, and they’re more attracted to you and inspired by you!

Not to mention, the more you love your marketing, the more you’ll actually market yourself, and the more you market yourself, the bigger impact you’ll make in the world.

Now, you might be wondering HOW you come to love your marketing, if you don’t feel all that warm and fuzzy about it right now.

Let’s talk about your mindset.

Why don’t you like it?

Maybe you feel like you aren’t good at it, or it requires so many things you should be doing (and you don’t like doing those things).

Or, maybe you take it seriously. VERY seriously.

You’re struggling with cash flow, and therefore, marketing feels like business life-or-death.

But what if you could shift your mindset around these reasons for disliking marketing?

Try thinking about this:

There are countless marketing tactics. Out of all of them, I’ll bet there’s one or more that you could come to enjoy or maybe even (gasp!) love.

Here’s a partial list, and rest assured that even if you don’t see something here that resonates with you, there are TONS of other tactics (which I outline in my “Love-Based Online Marketing” book):

  • Coaching (yes there’s a way to use your love of coaching in your marketing)
  • Speaking in person or virtually
  • Being interviewed in person or virtually (like for a summit or podcast)
  • Writing articles, blog posts, or emails
  • Being on TV or radio

Once you determine which is best suited to you and your personality, you can begin to build love-based marketing campaigns around it.

You’ll feel great while you’re doing the marketing, and as I mentioned above, your prospects will naturally feel attracted to you and your business.

Key 2. Dissolve Any Resistance You Have to Marketing.

As you know, I’m all about love-based marketing. I believe in using love-based emotions (like hope) to sell your products and services.

For so many people, including conscious, spiritual entrepreneurs, marketing can be a huge trigger, because it brings up so many different fears, including:

  • Fear of being seen
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of using up your “free” time
  • Fear of using up all your money
  • Fear of selling yourself

Take a moment to think about which fears marketing brings up for you.

Marketing resistance can be sneaky, and at first look, it may seem like you’re afraid of one thing when you’re actually afraid of another. Try this exercise to determine your “real” fears.

Exercise – Part One

Go ahead: grab a pen and a piece of paper and write down any marketing-related frustrations and dislikes.

Maybe you feel like you don’t have time for marketing. Or maybe you feel like you’re just terrible at it.

Once you have a list of several dislikes or frustrations, take this exercise deeper.

If you feel like you don’t have time, ask yourself why. Why haven’t you made time for marketing? Is it because you’ve always thought marketing was sleazy? Remind yourself that you’re selling a product or service that has the potential to transform people’s lives—that you’re offering your product or service because you want to change the world!

Exercise – Part Two

Consider this mindset shift:

When it comes right down to it, love-based marketing creates the space for someone to make a choice about whether to work with you and experience a transformation, or to not work with you, and not experience a transformation.

When you think about it this way, doesn’t marketing produce less resistance?

Key 3. Come from a Place of Love.

In broad terms, traditional marketing copy uses fear-based emotions to get people to buy. That’s why it can sometimes feel a bit arm-twisty.

But you don’t have to use these emotions.

You can use love-based emotions like hope, joy, and, of course, love, to market your products and services.

As I mentioned earlier, love-based marketing copy gives ideal prospects the space to make a choice. They’re choosing between transformation and the status quo. They’re choosing whether to work with you or not.

In your marketing, you can touch on their pain and present your product or service as the solution. Paint a picture of how different their life can be… and then stand back and let them make the choice about whether to experience it.

When you do, you can rest easy that your marketing feels good to you and to your prospects, and that it works!

You’ll begin to build your business by attracting, inviting, and inspiring people to say “yes” to their own transformations rather than by twisting their arms to get them to buy from you.

And the best part? The more people who say “yes” to working with you, the bigger an impact you’ll be making in the world.

If this resonates with you, you may like to take the teachings deeper with my book, “Love-Based Online Marketing: Campaigns to Grow a Business You Love AND That Loves You Back.” It’s available here.