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[Video] Flip It: Are You Letting Your Critics Win?

[Video] Flip It: Are You Letting Your Critics Win?

When I was a freshman in college, I was accepted into an advanced creative writing class. I admit, at the time I was pretty brash and full of myself (and not in a good way) and definitely deserved to be taken down a peg or two.

And, that’s precisely what happened. The creative writing professor didn’t care for me, gave me a C, and told me it was because I didn’t have much talent as a writer.

Now, for years, I would imagine telling this story on these national platforms, like Oprah, after I was a huge success, of course.

There was only one problem.

I had stopped writing.

Oh, I still had fantasies of becoming a famous author. And I often dreamed of telling this story as a revenge fantasy. But, in terms of putting the work in and actually sitting my butt down in a chair and writing, I wasn’t doing a darn thing.

And it wasn’t for lack of trying. I just didn’t have any ideas. I was completely blocked.

So, why was that? What happened to me?

Well, what I see now is I didn’t allow myself to process my emotions.

I jumped right into “Well, I’ll show her” and “Every famous author was told he or she didn’t have talent” mode, and skipped right over the part where I have a good cry because my feelings are hurt and maybe throw a temper tantrum while I’m at it. (Alone of course. This is not about creating a lot of drama and having people feel sorry for me. This is simply me behind closed doors feeling my emotions.)

I can remember back then feeling out of sorts, like I was a bottle of carbonated fizzy soda all blocked up with nowhere to go. I was literally feeling myself block my creativity, even though I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing at the time. I didn’t understand how important it was to feel my emotions and let them out before I could settle back down and do the hard work of creating.

So, now let’s talk about you. I get it. Being criticized is never fun. It’s even less fun now when social media is lurking right around the corner and people can say all sorts of nasty and hateful things for the world to read.

I understand. You should check out some of my reviews on Amazon. Ooof — a few are brutal. One even compares my writing to a 6-year-old. So, yeah. It happens.

But am I going to let those nasty-minded mean people stop me from getting my message out to those who are looking for it? Absolutely not. In fact, you can check out my fiction brand right here.

And you shouldn’t let them stop you either.

Which is why taking care of yourself is more important than ever.

If you don’t allow yourself to feel bad when you’re criticized, OR if you’re not allowing yourself to feel the fear you might be criticized if you get too big, you’re never going to allow yourself to get big enough to be criticized.

And, if you do that, who wins? You or your would-be critics?

The best part? Eventually the critics will lose their power to hurt you. Honestly. If you do the work and feel the feelings, no matter what they are, you’ll stop being triggered.

And then, who is the real winner?

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book.

[Video] Flip It! Are You Charging Too Much?

[Video] Flip It! Are You Charging Too Much?

For many entrepreneurs and business owners, especially when you’re first starting out, the tendency is to charge too little.

Which is why one of the first pieces of advice new entrepreneurs hear is “You’re not charging enough–raise your prices!”

But, my friend Morgana Rae has a different take. What she says is to NEVER charge too much. She believes it will always be easier to ask for — and receive — less than the value you give.

So. she turns it around and asks instead: What would it take for you to charge large amounts of money (even tens of thousands of dollars) and still provide more than enough benefit and value to never feel an inner conflict or guilt?

That’s a great question if you’re ready to start charging large amounts of money.

But what if you’re not?

What if you’re barely making ends meet despite working all the time? What if it’s so bad you find yourself resenting your clients or resenting your business because all you do is work and have nothing to show for it … and you’re still uncomfortable with the idea of raising your rates?

Maybe you’re afraid you’ll lose work. Maybe you think you’re already priced too high compared to your competition? Maybe you’ve even tried to raise your prices and it didn’t work out so you think you’re stuck.

Well I’d like to invite you to encourage this question — maybe the problem is you ARE charging too much?

You might be thinking — how can that be? I’m barely making it as it is.

Well, if you truly believed in yourself and the value you provide to your clients, then you’d likely be charging more.

And the reason why you’re not is because somewhere, deep inside, you don’t believe you’re worth it.

So, what would it take for you to believe you have what it takes to charge more?

I invite you to take a moment to think about it. And, if you want a few more tips, take a moment to watch the video, too:

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.