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The 3 Biggest Myths Standing in Your Way of Being a Spiritual Entrepreneur with a Successful, Profitable Business, DEBUNKED

The 3 Biggest Myths Standing in Your Way of Being a Spiritual Entrepreneur with a Successful, Profitable Business, DEBUNKED

As a spiritual entrepreneur, does the idea of having a successful, profitable business make you feel vaguely uncomfortable?

(It’s okay—you don’t have to raise your hand or anything.)

I suspect a part of you absolutely wants a business that pays you well and helps you get your message or gifts out into the world.

But, does a part of you struggle with the idea of having a successful business? Do you think to yourself “I’m spiritual; I shouldn’t be concerned with practical things like money and business.”

If this is you, I want to begin by saying this: you’re not alone. A lot of spiritual entrepreneurs struggle with their businesses.

And, it’s my personal belief that a lot of that struggle and angst can be avoided.

Why?

Because many issues can be traced back to 3 fundamental myths about what it means to be a spiritual entrepreneur.

Just like artists and writers and other creative professionals, I feel spiritual entrepreneurs are plagued by their own history of failure and self doubt and getting in their own way.

What if having a successful, profitable business was as easy as a simple mindset shift? Would you be willing to give it a try and see what happens?

My personal belief is it really CAN be that easy—and to help, I’m busting what I consider the 3 biggest myths standing in your way of being a spiritual entrepreneur with a successful, profitable business.

Let’s get started.

Myth #1. As a spiritual entrepreneur, you’re not good at business.

This is obvious, right? You’re concerned with spiritual matters, not pragmatic things like running a business.

Besides, maybe you think business stuff is boring. Or difficult. Or you’re not good at. Or it’s “beneath” you in some way.

You just want to make the world a better place while enjoying time and money freedom—you don’t want to be mired down in spreadsheets and reports and that other icky stuff.

I, too, thought I wasn’t good at business. I thought it was boring, and I really didn’t want to have anything to do with it.

But, a funny thing happened: the more I pulled up my big girl panties and dug into learning business concepts, the more I realized I actually enjoyed running a business.

Business doesn’t have to be boring or difficult.

Isn’t that precisely the reason why we start a business in the first place?

What if you WERE good at business? What if it was fun and enjoyable to run a business? What would that look like for you?

Myth #2. As a spiritual entrepreneur, you’re not supposed to make money—you’re spiritual!

Money is such a low consideration, isn’t it? Only greedy, selfish people care about money. If you care about money, you can’t possibly be spiritual.

Or can you?

This is a huge one. In our culture, we’ve somehow separated making money and being spiritual, when there really is no reason to separate the two.

I believe money is a form of energy. It’s a way for people to give back to you and a way for you to receive payment for your offerings. It doesn’t have to be bad or evil or selfish or greedy.

Honestly, our relationship with money is just so tangled, there’s no way I can do it justice in this post (which is why I wrote an entire book on this—“Love-Based Money and Mindset,” as have devoted an entire podcast to transforming our relationship with money and our money stories) but I’d like to invite you to sit with this statement, and really feel into it:

There’s no virtue in being broke.

If you can’t help yourself, there’s no way you can help anyone else.

And, I know plenty of very spiritual entrepreneurs who are also financially successful. It doesn’t have to be either/or.

What if you could be both—financially and spiritually successful? What would that look like? How would your life and business shift?

Myth #3. As a spiritual entrepreneur, you’re supposed to suffer.

After all, our spiritual and religious leaders have suffered. Look at Jesus or Gandhi—they suffered. That means we should suffer, too. Right?

Well … first off, are we so sure they suffered? Sure they may have had a challenging life, but lots of us do. That doesn’t mean they suffered.

It’s my belief that a lot of suffering is a choice, and that choice takes place in our head. We suffer when we allow our fear-based emotions to run amok in our heads, and torture us unmercifully.

After all, there are very wealthy people who spend their days numbing out with booze and prescription pills, while women in Africa spend a big chunk of their lives carrying the water they need to survive on their heads—content and peaceful.

What gives?

Money alone isn’t a guarantee of happiness, just as a lack of money isn’t a guarantee of suffering. A lot of it boils down to your mindset, and what sort of relationship you have with your fear-based emotions.

And just like being broke isn’t virtuous and noble, neither is suffering. Suffering doesn’t make you more spiritual. It doesn’t even make you a better person. (I think we all know mean-spirited, nasty people who are definitely suffering, and making sure everyone around them suffers, too.)

Having a successful, profitable business and being proud of that business doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t make you less spiritual.

It may allow you to help more people.

What if you didn’t have to suffer to be spiritual? What would open up for you? How would you approach your business if you knew that suffering was simply a choice, and you weren’t going to make that choice anymore?

If you’d like to dig into this more, my free book “How to Start a Business You Love AND that Loves You Back” is a great place start. The link to download is below.

3 Tips for Improving Your Relationship with Money, So You Can Attract More of It!

3 Tips for Improving Your Relationship with Money, So You Can Attract More of It!

What “relationship status” social media icon would you use to define your relationship with money? Married? Single? Or maybe …

“It’s complicated.”

Ah, yes. As an entrepreneur, your relationship with money can certainly be complicated.

If you want to start attracting more abundance into your life and business, having the right mindset is the first step. That’s because there is a direct correlation between results you get from your own money-attraction exercises and strategies and how good (or bad) your money mindset is.

And where does an effective money mindset start? With your relationship with money.

On one hand, the human-money relationship is simple: money is what we use to obtain the things we want.

But—and here’s where things get tricky—we also need money to buy certain things that are imperative to our survival, like food and shelter.

As my friend Kendra E Thornbury says, money is fundamental to our survival, so there is a survival energy around it. Which means that if you experience a serious setback, you may go into fight-or-flight mode …

And, if that happens, you’re operating at a very low vibration (which may mean you’re not in the mindset to attract anything good!).

Here’s the thing:

So, how do you ensure your long-standing relationship with money is as healthy as possible so you can attract it effectively?

Here are three tips:

Tip One. Examine Your Relationship with Money.

Take some time to think about how you feel about money, and what it represents to you. How do you feel when you think about money? How do you feel when you get ready to look at your bank account? Do you tense up? Do feel excited? Are you scared of what you’re going to find? Are you constantly afraid you’re going to run out of money? Do you feel confident asking people for money when the time comes?

Then, think about where these feelings come from? Are you stressed about money because you believe there’s never going to be enough? Are you afraid to charge your clients a certain amount because you don’t believe you’re worth it? Do you believe people who have lots of money are somehow bad or evil?

Your beliefs about money—especially if they’re derived from fear-based emotions—likely manifest as blocks. They keep you stuck in a low vibration so that you’re not attracting more money; or, even if you are attracting money, it, too has a low vibration and brings with it even more fear-based emotions.

Tip Two. Shift Your Perspective on Money.

Once you’ve uncovered your beliefs about money, you can begin to shift them so that you’re operating from a higher vibration (and therefore, able to attract more money!).

Here are just a few ways I encourage you to think about money. There are several more in my Love-Based Money and Mindset book, but this will give you a great start:

Money is a “thank you” from your clients.

People hire you to help them do something they can’t or don’t want to do themselves. So when you complete the task for which they’ve hired you, they’re probably grateful. They’re more than happy to pay you to express that gratitude. And think of what you’ve done for them: you’ve taken a task off their plate, saved them time, and helped them move forward in some way.

There is enough.

Ultimately, no matter how much or how little money you’ve had at different times throughout your life, you’ve always survived. There is always enough.

Of course, I’m not saying you shouldn’t build a savings account and practice good financial management. But I am saying that it’s okay to let that stress go. There is no need to hoard money or to worry about it running out.

Money is a conduit for doing good.

If you shy away from having a big bank account, remember that because money is a universal representation of value, you can use it to do good. You don’t necessarily have to keep all the money you earn. What if you could use money to fund a cause about which you’re passionate—the local humane society, an international relief organization, or a child welfare program? Wouldn’t that give earning money a positive spin?

When you’re attracting money at that high vibration—happily bringing it in because you know you can do good with it—it will flow!

Tip Three. Fall in Love with Money.

My friend Morgana Rae shares an exercise for shifting your perspective on money so that you can fall in love with it.

If you’re experiencing money challenges, you have what Morgana calls a “Money Monster.” If your money were a person, what would it look like? At this point, it may look big and ugly and scary! Of course you don’t want to be around that person, right?

What if you could give your Money Monster a makeover … into your “Money Honey,” someone who wants to be there for you? And, to take this a step farther, what if you could actually fall in love with your Money Honey?

Morgana recommends making your Money Honey a person: the opposite of your Money Monster. Someone you could fall in love with. (Sounds yummy, doesn’t it?)

The good news is that your relationship with money is always evolving. Money attraction is a practice, and you can always shift what you’re doing so it works effectively for you.

And the great news is that you hold the power to transform your relationship with money and maintain a loving, healthy friendship with it, no matter how deeply rooted your beliefs are.

This is a great place to begin, and if this topic resonated with you, then I hope you’ll take it even deeper by picking up your own copy of Love-Based Money and Mindset, here.

6 Signs You’re Attracting Money in a Fear-Based Way – and How to Attract It in a Love-Based Way (That Feels GOOD!), Instead

6 Signs You’re Attracting Money in a Fear-Based Way – and How to Attract It in a Love-Based Way (That Feels GOOD!), Instead

In my last blog post, What Does “Love-Based Money” Actually Mean? (And Will This New Way of Thinking Really Help You Attract More Money?), I explained the difference between love-based money and fear-based money and how you can use the love-based/fear-based concept to attract money.

Today, I want to dig into this a little deeper.

How do you actually know if you’re attracting money in a fear-based way? And if you are, how can you turn that around so you’re attracting money in a love-based way?

Here are six signs you’re attracting money in a fear-based way:

  1. You’re landing the wrong clients. The clients you’re closing are not a good fit for you. You likely don’t enjoy working with them and even dread getting on the phone with them. They’re never happy, which means you’re not happy, either. You spend 80% of your time on these clients, but make only 20% of your money from them (in other words, they’re high maintenance). These are the clients who ask for refunds (even after you’ve spent hours trying to make them happy), or give you bad reviews when they’re talking to their friends and colleagues.
  2. Your business has “issues.” Whether it’s issues with your team, your system, your technology or your vendors, you’re constantly fighting fires rather than doing what you love most.
  3. Your mental and physical health suffer. You are anxious and exhausted. You lack energy and focus. Your stress carries over into other aspects of your life, preventing you from truly enjoying anything.
  4. You’re working too hard and making less than you want. You’re always on the hamster wheel, trying to land the next client and sell the next project so you can get ahead … only, you never do, because you’re always behind.
  5. You feel like you’re always forcing things to happen. A big percentage of your tasks feel like emergencies. You keep thinking that if you can just work harder, try harder, push harder, then one day you’ll have “made it” and can relax. (Which of course never happens.)
  6. The more money you make, the worse you feel. I know, it sounds almost impossible, right? But when you bring in money with fear, your problems mount and your fear-based emotions grow. Now, along with worrying about not having enough, you also start worrying about losing what you have.

If you’re reading this and realizing that you are, in fact, bringing in money with fear, then you’re probably wondering what you can do to start bringing in money with love.

I’ve got you covered.

When you build your business—and attract money—in a love-based way, you’ll find that things just seem to flow … and you can enjoy the world of entrepreneurship without anxiety, stress, overwhelm, or anger.

Here are four steps you can take, starting now, to begin attracting money in a way that feels effortless:

1. Shift your perspective around fear-based emotions. I use a two-step process for breaking the hold your fear-based emotions have on you.

Step 1: Consider your fear-based emotions a guide. If you’re feeling worry or anxiety or fear or anger or resentment, check in with yourself. Do you need to course-correct? Or are you afraid because you’re stepping out of your comfort zone. This is an important first step to stopping fear-based emotions from controlling you.

Step 2: Start moving the energy of your fear-based emotions, by really feeling and integrating them. Feel your emotions, breathe into them, and confront them head-on with rational thoughts.

2. Shift your mindset into love and abundance. Create a daily practice designed to help you start each day in a love-based emotion. I recommend meditating, gratitude practices, affirmations, journaling, exercise, prayer, visualization exercises, or a combination of the above. A daily practice changed my life, and I’m confident that it can change yours.

3. Change your beliefs. You may have limiting beliefs—like, “I don’t deserve to make a lot of money,” or, “I’m not smart enough to run a business,” or, “No one will buy what I’m selling.” These limiting beliefs may be really obvious and make a big impact on your life, or they may be hidden, but the bottom line is that they stop you from reaching your goals. If you can identify the stories that stem from these beliefs, you can begin to move past them. For example, you may believe that if you leave a job you hate, your family will be disappointed and you’ll let everyone down. So, you stay in the job you hate, but you’re so stressed that your relationships with your family members deteriorate anyway. But when you recognize that story for what it is – a story built on the fear that you’ll let your family down – you can take action despite it.

4. Listen to your intuition. The more you listen to your intuition, the less you’ll be controlled by your inner critics, and the easier it will be to move yourself toward the life of your dreams.

And finally, for my BIG BONUS TIP:

Keep in mind that how your desire manifests itself may not always look how you think it ought to look, or how you expected it to. Remain committed to your desire but not attached to how it actually unfolds.

Here’s a great example: one of my colleagues launched a product last year and it went terribly! The launch was a disaster. (You can listen to the full story here.) But rather than force things—by immediately running out and planning an emergency launch and a million emails to try to salvage it—she relaxed. And guess what? The money came in different ways. So she still manifested her desire—to reach the people she wanted to reach and make a certain amount of money—but it didn’t look exactly the same as she’d expected it to.

If you like (and resonate with) this approach, you might want to check out my book “Love-Based Money and Mindset,” in which I share specific action steps on how you can shift your relationship with money, so you start to easily and effortlessly attract it. Learn more here.

What Does “Love-Based Money” Actually Mean? (And Will This New Way of Thinking Really Help You Attract More Money?)

What Does “Love-Based Money” Actually Mean? (And Will This New Way of Thinking Really Help You Attract More Money?)

In order to help us attract money along with understanding what love-based money actually means, it would probably help to understand the difference between love-based versus fear-based (this post explains it).

Once you understand that difference, the next step is to dig in and explain how the love-based/fear-based concept relates to money.

To start, without a doubt, the thought of money can throw us into our fear-based emotions faster than we can say “fear”!

Every time we get stressed around money — maybe an unexpected bill pops up, or we lose a client, or suffer another financial setback — the first thing many of us do is dive straight into fear-mode, spinning around, desperately trying to figure out a solution.

(Or, we sink into depression — collapsing on the couch and binge watching “Game of Thrones” with a carton of Rocky Road ice cream. Or, we alternate between the two modes — spinning around frantically trying to bring in money with periods of depression and procrastination.)

The problem is, when we’re trying to drum up money when we’re lost in a fog of fear, we’re essentially building our relationship with money right smack on a foundation of fear.

And then, it becomes a vicious cycle:

We’re full of worry or fear or anxiety, and we start trying to create money in that mindset. And while we might succeed in bringing money in, initially, it doesn’t make the fear-based emotions go away.

If anything, it actually amplifies them. (Think about it: you worry about money, you bring some in, you worry about where it needs to go/how it will be spent, you worry about losing it, you worry it’s not enough, and you worry about how you’ll get more.)

However, if you can instead bring in money from a place of love, not only will it be easier to attract in the first place (and very likely lead to abundance), but it also won’t be tainted with the energy of fear (a low-vibration emotion that inhibits your ability to attract money and abundance).

And this is what love-based money is really about …

(AND, it lets us feel peaceful and good as we bring it into our lives.)

If you like (and resonate with) this approach, you might want to check out my book “Love-Based Money and Mindset,” in which I share specific action steps on how you can shift your relationship with money, so you start to easily and effortlessly attract it. Learn more here.