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[Video] Flip It! I’m Spiritual so I Should Never Have Bad Feelings

[Video] Flip It! I’m Spiritual so I Should Never Have Bad Feelings

If you’re a part of a spiritual community, including the entrepreneurial spiritual community, it’s not uncommon to hear things like:

• Sending love and light.

• I only focus on love, I don’t want to put any energy on anything negative.

• Don’t call anything a failure, you should rephrase that into something more positive.

• You don’t have to do things that scare you to transform, rephrase that into doing things that excites you.

• There’s so much negativity in the world, let’s just talk about the positive.

You get the picture.

This happens so frequently, it actually has a name. It’s called a spiritual bypass.

You’re spiritual! That means you shouldn’t be feeling any “bad” emotions. You only feel love and light and only focus on the positive.

So, let’s talk about this. It sounds good, doesn’t it? Who wouldn’t want to focus just on the good and not on the negative? And, if you’ve studied Law of Attraction, you learn that whatever you focus on expands so of course you want to focus on the good versus the negative.

But, as usual, things are rarely what they seem.

Believe it or not, your fear-based emotions, like grief, anger, fear, exist to help you. Fear is there to because there are times in your life that fear is an appropriate emotion — you seeing a shadow at the end of a dark alley — yes, your fear showing up and telling you to get out of there is a good thing. Anger is a reaction when your boundaries have been violated. Guilt helps us live in a community. And grief lets us know we loved. It’s our badge for loving deeply. And if you allow yourself to go there and fully feel grief and let it move through you, the gifts you’ll receive can change your life.

But, those emotions uncomfortable, so in many cases we don’t want to feel them. Instead we do all sorts of things to keep ourselves from feeling them — we drink, overeat, gossip, fight, shop, post inappropriate things on social media, distract ourselves by being “too busy,” etc.

The problem is, ignoring our emotions or burying them or running away from them doesn’t mean they go away. Nope. Feelings just want to be felt.  They stick around and bother you until you feel them. Once you do, then (and only then) will they go away.

And, when you don’t feel them, they build up. Which is why we’ve lost a lot of the benefit those feelings can give us — they’re so built up and so desperately want to be felt they start coming out at inappropriate ways. So, we can’t trust them or trust what they’re trying to tell us.

The good news is all is not lost. We can get back to the place where we can use our fear-based emotions to guide us — all we have to do is start pausing and allowing them to be felt and move through us, no matter how crazy they seem in the moment. And eventually we’ll be able to start trusting them again.

Watch below for more on what you can do to start trusting your emotions.

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.

[Video] Flip It! Does Law of Attraction Actually Work?

[Video] Flip It! Does Law of Attraction Actually Work?

You’ve undoubtedly heard of the Law of Attraction, which was made famous by the movie “The Secret.” At its simplest level, it’s a Universal Law, which says that we attract into our lives whatever we focus on.

Some people make “vision boards,” so they have a visual representation of the things they want to focus on. Other people set goals or intentions, and work toward them each day. Still others practice gratitude, or meditate.

Some people say the Law of Attraction works.

And some people say it doesn’t.

And some people say it only works some of the time.

What do you think?

A quick online search of, “Does the Law of Attraction work” returns more than 42 million results—so this is obviously a widely discussed topic.

At one point (after watching “The Secret”) I was convinced it doesn’t work. I wanted to earn more money. But the more I thought about money, the more stressed I felt, and the less money I had.

Now, though, my perspective on the Law of Attraction has shifted—because as I embarked on my personal development journey I met some really great mentors who had more experience with it, and who were able to teach me some of its nuances.

I talk more about this shift in this episode of “Flip It!” but for now, I’d like to point out one thing: that simple explanation of the Law of Attraction—that we attract whatever we focus on—really does the Law a disservice.

And it does you a disservice if you don’t explore the Law on a deeper level. You see, the Law of Attraction is about more than what you think about. It’s about what you feel, and who you are, while you’re in the midst of attracting things into your life.

So I invite you to watch this episode of “Flip It!” and begin your own exploration.

 

(And if you’re wondering exactly how you can get everything you want simply by flipping your perspective? Check out the first episode here.)

If you liked this episode, you may also like my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book — you can check it out here.

2 Steps to Using the Law of Attraction Correctly and Attracting More Money

2 Steps to Using the Law of Attraction Correctly and Attracting More Money

Are you as skeptical as I was that the Law of Attraction even works?

(Growing up in Wisconsin and the daughter of a scientist, when I first heard of it, I thought it was pretty much a bunch of bull.)

However, at the time when I was first introduced to the Law of Attraction, I was pretty desperate. I was trying all sorts of strategies to attract more money to my business, so I thought why not? I’d give LOA a try.

What did I have to lose?

It turned into one of the biggest mistakes of my life.

Now, before I go any further, let’s talk about what exactly IS The Law of Attraction. It’s a Universal Law, which means it’s always working: “Like attracts like.” In other words, you’ll attract experiences that align with the energy you’re putting out there. Whether it works for you or against you is up to you.

That first time I encountered the Law of Attraction, I didn’t use it correctly. Consequently, I didn’t get the results I was hoping for. (Actually, it was a lot worse than that. I ended up getting myself so messed up it took months to fix.) I did eventually turn things around, but not without a lot of needless suffering and angst. (I share more about my Law-of-Attraction-from-Hell story in my “Love-Based Money and Mindset” book.)

Before I tell you about the 2-step mindset shift that will help you use the Law of Attraction correctly so it actually works for you, I want to give you a quick word of warning: do NOT be deceived by how simple this process seems.

As humans, we often make things more complicated than they are. In reality, keeping things simple tends to serve us better.

Give this a try and see what magic starts to happen in your life and in your love-based business!

Step One. Notice evidence of abundance (whether it’s money or love or anything else you feel is lacking) in your life or business.

When we experience a lack of something, we often start obsessing about it. When we obsess, that’s all we think about.

Our energy reflects that, vibrating at a low frequency of lack.

And then (because as you know, “Like attracts like”), we attract more of that lack.

It’s important to note that this is about more than telling yourself not to think about something—because that never works!

Let’s use money as an example. If you feel like there is not quite enough money in your life or business, then you’re vibrating at a low frequency. To shift that energy, start noticing abundance everywhere.

Find a penny on the street? Receive a check from a client? Discover a dollar in your jeans pocket? Take note of this! It doesn’t have to be cash money, either. For example, if a friend treats you to lunch or someone brings you flowers, or a prospect wants to meet with you – these are all examples of abundance.

Now, journal it! Record five instances of money or abundance in your life, every single day. Even if you don’t believe you have five per day, you’ll start to SEE what you actually do have, already.

Step Two. Be grateful for all the evidence of abundance in your life.

Gratitude is the LOA’s best friend! The more gratitude you feel, the more good things happen for you.

The great news is that Step Two ties directly in with Step One. When you’re journaling your evidence of abundance, take some time to be actively grateful for each piece of evidence.

You may even express your gratitude out loud or in writing. The exciting thing about this is that when you express your gratitude for the abundance you see in your life, more abundance will come your way.

Bonus points if you practice feeling grateful for everything in your life—the roof over your head, the food in your fridge, your clothes, your relationships … you name it.

When you think about it, each of us has so much for which to be grateful. The excitement lies in this realization.

Be patient with yourself as you practice this process. It may feel unnatural or awkward, and that’s okay.

It will get easier, and it will work!

And when it does, you’ll love your love-based business even more than you already do.

If you like (and resonate with) this approach, you might want to check out my book “Love-Based Money and Mindset,” in which I share specific action steps on how you can shift your relationship with money, so you start to easily and effortlessly attract it. Learn more here.